Hey Reader!
It's not about doing the right thing all the time.
It's not about having the million dollar morning routine.
It's not about knowing better and doing better every single time.
It's not about no longer hurting now that you know why you're hurt.
It's not about not having problems.
It's not about things going smoothly from this point on.
It's not about not repeating a pattern now that you know what's behind it.
So what is it about then?
It's about becoming a bit more aware as you go along.
It's about attuning to yourself more and more over time.
It's about practicing, unlearning and learning anew.
You've had certain habits and patterns your entire life. It will take many rounds of practice before responding in new ways becomes second nature.
And in the beginning, you will realize why you got triggered, why you reacted the way you did, why you said what you said, why did what you did only in hindsight, when reflecting back on it.
Knowing all the healing techniques and having breakthroughs is one thing.
Physically doing them is another.
It takes time. Be curious and compassionate with yourself as you practice - through those awkward early attempts at feeling your feelings, communicating directly, meeting your needs, showing up as yourself and moving through conflicts.
You're working with what you've got. And the fact that you're working at it is already remarkable.
That said, you're not meant to heal yourself into perfection. The 'best version' of yourself is still human. She may be more practiced, more self-aware and self-confident. She may have mastered the skills that you're learning and she may be more comfortable in her skin.
But they're not exempt from being human.
They procrastinates too sometimes.
They accidentally hurt someone's feelings.
They say the wrong things.
They get angry.
They get off track.
They make mistakes.
They do something stupid.
They feel lost and confused.
They go through their personal winters.
But they understand that this is normal. And they know how to handle these things as they happen. She know how to sit down with themselves and get curious as to why they are feeling out of alignment in their life, their work, their relationships. They listen until the answer appears. And then they take the steps to realign themselves.
And they knows that this is an ongoing process as they change and grow throughout their life. That each evolution brings new things and unlocks different aspects of self to discover and get to know.
They see it as part of the fun.
Here's how you can align with that version of yourself.
Recognize that you are acquiring a whole new skillset you were never taught before.
And it does get better over time. You do become more adept. You can unlearn your old adaptations.
But you can't unlearn being human.
So you will never reach a point where you don't make mistakes. Where you won't feel pain or have problems.
You will never reach a point where you're perfect.
You will only be more YOU.
A little rough around the edges. A little wild. A little bit lived-in. A little bit raw. This is part of your beauty and part of the beauty around you.
Fall in love with it, and watch your road transform before you.
With love,
Noemi 🩷
If you would like some support and guidance as you navigate this road, I have 5 open spots in my coaching program called Self-Love Mastery.
Self-Love Mastery is a 16-week coaching container where you will gain the skills, mindset and resources to build self-confidence and create and sustain the loving relationships your heart desires.
You will learn how to confidently show up to your relationships as your true self, live according to your values and have the kind of love your heart desires without losing yourself or falling into old self-defeating patterns.
And you will be met with curiosity, understanding and compassion the entire way.
I am looking to work with individuals who are ready to embody their authentic selves and open to love that is rooted in confidence, self-love and integrity.
You are a perfect fit for Self-Love Mastery if you resonate with any (or all!) of the following:
✅You've recently gone through a breakup and are ready to reconnect to yourself, heal your heart, and rebuild your confidence.
✅You are noticing yourself feeling anxious, insecure, or avoidant in your current relationship, and are looking to break free from painful patterns to create a healthy, loving relationship rooted in confidence, trust and integrity.
✅You are motivated to deepen your understanding of yourself and your patterns, overcome your insecurities in different areas, and create a more fulfilling life with deeper relationships.
✅You are really into personal growth and know quite a bit about it and now you're looking to put theory into practice in a supportive space.
✅You are on the precipice of a big change in your life - a new job, new relationship, new project, a new country, maybe - but you are feeling hesitant to make the leap and want to understand what is holding you back so you can enter this new chapter with confidence.
If this calls to you and you are ready to dive in and do this beautiful work, I would love to work with you. You can apply to work with me in Self-Love Mastery here.
And if you have any questions about the program, please feel free to reach out via email or Instagram. I'll be happy to answer them.
With love,
Noemi🩷
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Levon, 28
“Coaching sessions with Noemi are full of revelations and discoveries. We have together unearthed some of my limiting beliefs, core wounds, and identified my attachment style. Establishing cadence and doing my homework has greatly impacted my everyday life.
I have been able to identify behavioral patterns that connected to my wounds and greatly improved them. This helped me in my everyday life, including work, romantic relationships, emotion management and just understanding myself better. Beyond that, she's an awesome bubbly personality, and we do discuss psychology and social dynamics a lot. Highly recommend!”
